Healing Coaching: How To Forgive

from On April 5, 2016

Healing Coaching: How To Forgive

Resentment is a poison that tires you and makes nobody happy. Forgiveness is a vital act it’s to let go, move on, stop being a victim. It’s also to no longer dwell on the sense of injustice. It is living in the present. If you continue to blame the people who have hurt you, you remain somehow under their power. This is what you believe but in reality it’s your emotions that completely take power over you … They have taken on you; They dominate your life and induce your actions and reactions. As long as it lasts, you are in prison. But it is you who hold the keys to your jail … 

We must first understand that forgiving does not mean to accept what others did, but it’s to liberate yourself from the poison of resentment. Forgiving at all costs is very bad for our health, our wellbeing and our self-esteem. We can not forgive if it hurts us. There are no good or bad emotions, the only important thing is our way to manage our emotions. Because emotions allows us to know what is happening within us. The negative emotions or patterns must go out before the act of forgiveness; Anger, vengeance, guilt, All this range of emotions must be lived, by shouting, writing, or your own way to liberate your emotions (All while respecting others).

Not to do it can harm us. To Suppress and to keep those emotions within will affect us. It can damage your health and prosperity (Emotional constipation), It has to come out. We must purge these negative emotions, we must mourn. You also need to have compassion, know that everybody is trying to do their best with their limits. At this present moment, we are a certain person, we weren’t that person yesterday. and tomorrow we will be another person. because we live every minute with the new experiences and knowledge.

To go further, we must break free from this guilt or to forgive ourself for the errors of judgment. because that’s how we learned and this is how we can evolve. People around us do the same, they react to us with the best of their knowledge. Sometimes this is done through mistakes, because they thought that this was the best thing to do at that time. So they hurt us unintentionally. Each person makes the best of what they are capable of. But sometimes, that best is not the best for us. If the person repeats this type of offense, that hurts us, it’s up to us to put our barriers and limits. Explain to that person and ask them kindly to stop. If the person is receptive, they can even ask for forgiveness which removes the stress of unforgiveness. To forgive your parents, think about their childhood, they had to live when they were children. They did not have all the tools to improve themselves. Sometimes  the best way to take care of yourself is by detaching yourself completely from a person or a situation. But still sending them love and wishing them the best. To heal, we often have to move away from what is hurting us. The memory of this injury is to avoid it in the future. Forgiveness is always an act of Love, but it does not mean you will continue your relationship with that person or situation. Here is a great article if you need help cutting cords of attachment: Love Coaching: 2 ways to cut cords of attachment.

Here is the first exercise that will help you free yourself of resentment and rancor. It will be useful to settle old feuds as well as past crisis periods. Do it whenever you feel the need, when you feel that something has remained in your heart.

You can start this exercise by writing to the person what you feel about his action or about what happened. Continue with steps 1, 2 and 3. If it’s something you created yourself, do the exercise by addressing your name. The person to whom you are speaking does not have to be aware of your approach. It is within you that takes place the process of forgiveness. This is why it also applies to people who are no longer of this world. That way, you can develop with regard to others, and to yourself, an attitude of understanding which leaves the field open to true love. You can clear away difficult things you have lived and that hurt you by raising over the situation. You will finally be freed from that weight you were hanging on to for a long time, and you can start to enjoy a new freedom in your relationships with others. By Accepting the Past, you allow peace within yourself, which is a great starting point for a new and positive life.

1. Imagine that the person is in front of you. Depending on what happened, tell him/Her internally

“(Name), I would have liked that… but it did not happen. “I don’t want to stay attached to that desire. I now dissolve this expectation that I had towards you. ”

2. Imagine a golden light emanating from your body.

3. Feel the energy of love spread in every particle of your body. It binds up the wounds mentioned.

Here is the second exercise to help you free yourself from resentment.

Forgiveness and Ho oponopono, what is it?

This is a technique from the Hawaiian philosophy of life, a personal development tool. What we experience and attract, is a reflection of what we have within ourselves, memories, wounds …We can attract, despite of ourselves, situations and people awakening within us these difficult memories.


– Releasing old limiting blockages.

-Create the Life we wish by improving our relationship with others.

-To Reconcile with ourself.

-To Develop a deep relationship with our inner soul

HOW? :

By repeating 4 Mantras of purification that release a powerful vibrational energy of healing

1) I’m sorry: I did not know I had this within me.

2) Forgive Me: to life, to myself.

3) Thank You: for showing me the problem.

4) I love you: Universal because now I can clean myself from this.


1) The Mirror Exercise: If you wish to practice Ho oponopono it’s that within you, you want to change, clean your memory, free others.

Position yourself in front of the mirror, look straight into your eyes, and say: “I’m ready to change my erroneous thoughts and change my point of view on life”. Stay alert to the reaction of your body, and repeat the affirmation until you “feel” your body, your soul, your cells responded. You may experience chills, shaking, crying, be moved, laughter…. Everyone reacts differently it is normal!

2)  Conscious Breathing

I breath in by visualizing the Energy of the Universe filling me. I breathe out by visualizing the elimination of my memories.

3) Clean the events of the day

Replay the scenes of the day and clean your memories. For Each memory, repeat “I’m sorry, Forgive Me, Thank you, I love you, “

4) The Art Of Reconciliation and Forgiveness-Ho’oponopono, Mantra Meditation, Hawaiian Prayer, Theta Binaural Beats

Pay attention to your reactions, some memories can resurface during this exercise. Accept these memories and repeat for each one

I’m sorry

Forgive Me

Thank You

I love you

5) When you live a difficult situation or a conflict with someone it’s that something within you, that is buried within, attracted it and the goal is to clean yourself from this so that it doesn’t return.

Think about the problem or the person which is the source of this conflict


I’m sorry

Forgive Me

Thank You

I love you


This practice is very powerful, we can also use it for others, help a sick friend, releasing an offender from the grip that the memory has on us and release him from his trouble. Practicing ho oponopono on edible foods can also increase their vibrations…This article is a brief summary of the benefits of Ho’oponopono, Once you understand this method, share it! The more we are to clean our wounds, our cellular and emotional memory, Better life will be… Best Regards.


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