Kids Coaching: Tips to raise a Happy child

from On May 31, 2016

Kids Coaching: Tips to raise a Happy child

How to raise your child so that he learns to be happy and to fully enjoy life? Here are some tips to give him the taste of happiness.

Happy child: Security

From the birth of your child, pay attention to his requests, make him feel he can count on you. Your toddler needs warm and stable relationships. He must feel that the world around him is not hostile, that the sky will not fall on his head! This is what will enable them to acquire the basic security they need. Have a regular behavior, avoid sudden mood swings, establish small rituals (bath, bed, food, games) that pace life and are reassuring. Don’t hesitate to take him in your arms whenever you feel like it, to look, to touch, to talk to him.

Happy child: Self-confidence

– Show your child that he makes you happy.

Above all, show them the joy you feel to have them. You were so happy the day of his birth, you find him full of qualities and you believe in his abilities … Tell him that you love him as he is!

– Encourage and compliment your child.

Don’t hesitate to compliment him, even in the cradle. But beware, no praise like “You’re wonderful, amazing, great, great …” devoided of content and therefore meaningless. Instead of using unnecessary flatteries, target specific situations. “You had a long sleep, very good! ” ” Congratulations on your drawing, it’s very pretty, ” ” You set the table without me having to remind you, ” ” You were very kind to your little sister. ” That way, your child will know exactly what you are encouraging.

– Don’t criticize your child as a person.

You have the right to criticize his attitude (despite your warnings, he broke your beautiful vase), actions (he made his little brother cry), his words (he insulted a friend) but not him as a person. If you tell him without further ado: “You are unbearable,” “What a nasty boy”, you give him a bad image of himself without the possibility of becoming better. You undermine his self-confidence. Also, if he repeats “I am lousy” “I am terrible” or “I’m stupid,” tell him this is no true. Otherwise, he will eventually believe it!

– Be careful with your words.

Becareful with the little murderous phrases, said daily, can cut his wings. “Forget about it, I’ll do it, you’re too small,” “Give me that, you won’t be able to do it”, “Let me do it, I will go much faster …” What he hears, is that he is not able to do it. He can deduce that it’s not worth trying new things. It is Better to say, “Beautiful, you tried. Next time, I’ll show you how to do even better.”

– Think positively before criticizing.

Before issuing a critique (justified), first think positively. “Your coloring is beautiful! It would have been nicer if you had not exceeded over the sides. You can try again tomorrow. “Recognize his little progress, even the tiny ones. This will make him to want to excel the next day!

– Help your child to accept his failures.

Even the greatest athletes and top researchers must face them and they don’t succeed every time. To make a mistake is to learn to consider your mistakes and investigate the reasons. That’s how we progress. There is no need to ruminate failures.

– Don’t deny your child’s complexes.

He stumbles over the words, he has protruding ears, he is the smallest in class, his hair is flaming red? Talk to him about it and reassure him, everyone is different and that’s what makes the richness of the human being. When possible, find solutions: an appointment with the doctor or speech therapist for example.

Happy child: Optimism and joy of life.

– Set an example for your child.

Your child is sensitive to your attitude, the way you look at life, your happiness. Of course, life is not always easy and you can not always show you’re enthusiastic! But if he sees that after having expressed a contradiction, you are able to move on to something that makes you both happy (a family meal, a DVD that you will watch together, a good dessert to share …), he will say to himself that happiness is never far away.

– Teach your child to enjoy the small pleasures of life.

Life is full of magical moments we must know how to appreciate: the hot chocolate after we take a walk in the rain, the game of dominoes that turned to laughter, the family reunion that continues until the middle of the night … Don’t be afraid to punctuate all those times with word: “Ahhhhh we are so well and happy!”

– Show your child the bright side of things.

He won’t be able to go on vacation with the grandparents? On the bright side, He will be able to go to the recreational center and enjoy all the organized activities: zoo, amusement park, swimming pool … He is sick and can’t go outside? It’s a great time to create something new, something he’s never done before, like playing an instrument, painting etc…

– Don’t let your child worry for nothing.

Humans can’t help but to imagine the worst and worry about things that have not happened yet and may not even arrive. Try to protect your child from this bad habit by helping them stay in the reality of the present moment. He is convinced that the new teacher is not nice? Show him that he is bringing fear into his life for nothing. “It’s one of your friends who told you she was harsh? But maybe this friend is not very wise and she had good reason to be harsh with him … wait to be in his class, and we’ll talk about it after.”

– Teach your child to think positively.

He complains that his little brother takes his things? Answer: “He wants to imitate you, he finds you tall and interesting. “he says:” Granny gets to me, she always asks me lots of questions! “Answer:” It is because she is interested in you, she wants to know how you feel. “

What is a happy child?

• Do All children have the same capacity for happiness?

Some temperaments are more “constrained” than others. This is the case of very anxious children, for example. Or very intolerant children to frustration, always looking for immediate pleasure. These children have more difficulties to be happy than others, calmer, more distanced, fewer demands. However, there is no genetic determinism. Nothing is settled in advance! Family education is there to overcome this kind of small “handicap” of departure.

• What is a happy child?

We often confuse the consumer child, loaded with material goods, and happy child. Of course, a child needs to have his desires satisfied. But this is not the goal of education. The immediate pleasure has nothing to do with what you can teach a child: self-acceptance, acceptance of others, acceptance of reality. A happy child is a child who knows himself very well, who is capable of having relationships with others and deals well with the vagaries of life. He knows that there are essential things he can’t escape from.

Thank you for reading this kids coaching article. Best regards.


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