Love Coaching: Are you feeling guilty?…

from On November 10, 2015

Love Coaching: Are you feeling guilty?…

Are certain people around you trying to make you feel guilty? Guilt is one of the lowest forms of vibration you can have. When we feel guilty we feel powerless. It makes us feel like a victim. Guilt disconnects us from trust, communication, self-esteem, affection, love.

When someone tries to make us feel guilty, This person uses manipulation. He (or She but we will use He in this context) uses the vulnerability we have towards this relationship and He will use our low self esteem to manipulate us for the sole purpose of having us do or act like he wants us to. When we feel guilty after someone’s comment, it’s only because WE allowed the other to reach our area of vulnerability. Low self esteem  means that part of us also believes what this person is saying. From fear, We give him the power and the authority to temporarily use us for his own purposes. Low self esteem brings out alot of fears and keeps us prisoner in a toxic relationship.

But the fact remains that no one can make us feel guilty if we don’t give him the opportunity. We are the masters of our response to these attempts to try and make us feel guilty. We have several choices when someone tries to make us feel guilty we can ignore the attempt, have it reflected to the accuser, defend ourselves or refuse to board the boat that would take us right to the drift. We must be careful on the way we react. Be sure you react assertively (Gentle, Kind & Loving way). Remember the universe will respond to you with the same energy you emitted. So when we react aggressively, we will probably end up with bad results. We will never fix anything in a relationship while reacting aggressively or passive aggressively. If we develop our self esteem, if we build it and strengthen it every day,  if we live according to our values, if we know that we are always doing our best and that our intentions are created in love, then no one can make us feel guilty.

Acting with pure intention based on love lets us know that we always do our best. Respecting our core values confirms that we are not going beyond our limits. Knowing that we wish the best for others brings us relationships based on respect and understanding. It’s up to you to put your boundaries and to be out of any form of guilt. By loving ourselves more & more, we move away from manipulators who no longer see us as victims they feasted on. And by loving ourselves enough not to get into their game, we will show them a different way of relating with others, a healthier and more authentic way. We can only wish them to break free from this devastating addiction in their lives.

As for us, we will continue to learn to love ourselves from these experiences destined to strengthen us. And we will refuse any form of guilt.

We hope this Love Coaching article was helpful for you. If you want to go further in the process, here are some online courses & Book suggestions:

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Loving Yourself: The Great Miracle Cure for Healing Your Life!

We came equipped with everything within us that we need in order to live this Life fully and richly. We have all the wisdom. We have all the knowledge. We have all the abilities and all the talents. We have all the love and all the emotions that we need. Life is here to support us and take care of us, and we need to know and trust that it is so.

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Bringing Extreme Self-Care into your life takes commitment, support, and practice. During this Online Course, Cheryl helps you develop your self-care muscles by giving you a specific way to practice each lesson. Following her book, The Art of Extreme Self-Care, Cheryl guides you through a year-long series of empowering lessons that are sure to help you take the steps you need to live a more fulfilling, enjoyable, and rich life. Listen to Cheryl’s recorded calls to help prepare you for this lifetime transformation and make the most of this course and create lasting change in your life. $99

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The five simple techniques that will help you say no with finesse in nearly any situation
How to apply two basic principles to minimize guilt about saying no and reduce the likelihood of personal conflicts

In addition, authors Patti Breitman and Connie Hatch provide specific language and practical strategies for defending your boundaries against life’s many intrusions and distractions, including:

Demanding friends and family members
Unwelcome invitations, dates, and romantic entanglements
Requests for money, whether from friends, relatives, organizations, or panhandlers
Unreasonable assignments at work
Pushy people who ask for too many favors
Junk mail, annoying phone calls, and buddies with something to sell
High-maintenance people
And much more

Ultimately, “no” can be one of the most positive words in your vocabulary. Whether you crave more family time, more time for yourself, or more time to pursue a dream, saying no frees up room for the “yeses” in your life.

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Nathaniel Branden’s book is the culmination of a lifetime of clinical practice and study, already hailed in its hardcover edition as a classic and the most significant work on the topic.  Immense in scope and vision and filled with insight into human motivation and behavior, The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem is essential reading for anyone with a personal or professional interest in self-esteem. The book demonstrates compellingly why self-esteem is basic to psychological health, achievement, personal happiness, and positive relationships.  Branden introduces the six pillars-six action-based practices for daily living that provide the foundation for self-esteem-and explores the central importance of self-esteem in five areas: the workplace, parenting, education, psychotherapy, and the culture at large.  The work provides concrete guidelines for teachers, parents, managers, and therapists who are responsible for developing the self-esteem of others.  And it shows why-in today’s chaotic and competitive world-self-esteem is fundamental to our personal and professional power.

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